Posted by Nathan_Arizona on July 3, 2007, at 14:04:27
In reply to Your posts help and..., posted by 10derHeart on July 1, 2007, at 13:16:13
Well, maybe it's just me (and I know this is NOT the point), but I do think you have a right to be mad. You are paying for his time and he is not giving it to you. I think you have the right to set some boundaries on the phone calls during session.
Not only is he breeching the fiduciary relationship he has with you, but that is your time together.
Now, having said that, anger is not a bad emotion and feeling it is not going to drive anyone away or make them leave you. It is simply an emotion that I think you have a right to feel (we all do).
Personally, I find anger to be one of the most motivating of all the emotions and when used correctly, can induce very positive change.
Usually it not the anger that sucks, it's the outcome when we express that anger - and that's the key - it doesn't have to be a negative outcome at all.
Warning - standard psychobabble advice follows - I would simply talk to your T, tell him that the phone calls upset you, tell him why they upset you and be prepared to negotiate a solution with him that suits you both.
I have a good feeling that, handled correctly, this could be a really good thing.
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