Posted by Dory on June 14, 2007, at 19:02:19
In reply to i HATE my Brother, posted by B2chica on June 14, 2007, at 9:59:18
(((B2)))
look i'll be blunt ok.. and give you something to examine. i tell it like it is when i can... and i care when i do. Forgive me if i am way off..
i think this hurt so much because it bites hard into your own issues...the biggest of which is guilt. As defiant as you as/were and i mean in trying to protect yourself... as justified as you feel, and you should... the isn't a person alive that has any kind of normal psyche who does not feel guilt about negative feelings or interactions with a parent, esp mother. It bites into your guilt about hurting your mother, regardless of how justfied you were. It also bites into the hurt and disbelief at being hurt by her. It bites into the selfshame of "what did i do to deserve this" that a child thinks because that IS how a child thinks... they aren't capable of otherwise. In a child's mind mother is the ideal, any negative interaction must be the child's fault.
Does this makes sense?
Your brother is obviously not a tender-hearted person as an adult. i am sorry he isn't there for you, and i am even more sorry he feels the need to be cruel.
poster:Dory
thread:763118
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