Posted by wishingstar on June 5, 2007, at 0:30:23
In reply to saw my T today, posted by Dory on June 4, 2007, at 19:14:14
Oh dory.... I could have written this post myself. Especially the part about wanting him to get the feelings and say things like "that must hurt".. and wanting HIM to get it. I've said the exact same lines (literally!) to my past therapist and now my current one as well. I get caught up in the "if I just explain myself and what I need well enough....." thing and have a hard time leaving. Even though I know it's very hard, I'm glad you're seeing what is happening and giving yourself a deadline to move on. I know you like him as a person.. I feel the same way about my T... but if it's not what you need, it's not what you need. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do or say to make him get it. It's possible his mind just works differently and he just cant grasp what you need.
There are other Ts out there who you will like just as much. Think about how good it will feel when a T really gets it.. from the angle you want them to. That's what I try to hold on to. I guess my only advice is write the letter, but if he doesnt get it then, dont let yourself back out of your decision to try elsewhere. Go interview a few new Ts. Finding one you like always (imo) makes it easier to say goodbye to another. I'm not sure how much of my advice and thoughts on this is really about my own feelings (probably most!) but I hope some makes sense or relates.Sorry you're going through this. It's a hard feeling.
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