Posted by sunnydays on June 1, 2007, at 22:27:30
In reply to Why do T's tell us that they think of us?, posted by Happyflower on June 1, 2007, at 22:11:29
Why are T's not supposed to make us feel special? I'm asking this seriously, I don't understand that. My T has told me I'm special to him because he's learned a lot from me that has made him a better therapist (so he says) and that he's learned a lot about himself from working with me (and I'm dying to know what, but I refuse to ask because it's probably pretty personal).
I must say, though, it does sound like your T thinks about you an awful lot. My T has only told me a few times he has thought of me. I know he has thought of me sometimes when he hears a metaphor or something that reminded him of my situation. And he must think of me when I email him (which is a lot). But I know he's really good at managing his work and personal life and am pretty sure from the number of times he has forgotten to call me just from getting caught up doing other things that he doesn't think of his clients much when he's home.
Saying he missed you at the gym, though, could be perfectly innocent - like saying you missed someone when they were out sick from work. Not like intense longing missed, but just a noticing that the person wasn't there and wishing they were because their smile brightens your day. And I bet those other times he thinks of you are just sort of passing thoughts - I hope they aren't long drawn-out fantasies or anything. :)
Well, I'm so sleepy and need to go to bed, so sorry if this didn't make any sense.
sunnydays
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