Posted by frida on May 27, 2007, at 13:16:24
In reply to Re: 4 years today, posted by spalding on May 27, 2007, at 0:39:06
that's okay, I understand...
I just think that it is impossible to judge other therapists and people's treatment without knowing the full situation and the therapist.
In my case, it is the connection to my T what I find healing and what has helped.
She also tells me some things about herself sometimes to show me how to share and how to trust, because it took me a long time to be able to say a word...and she has told me her own feelings too, and it has truly helped in my treatment.
Everything she has shared, has made me trust her more and see her as a human being. If she hadn't, I would probably still be silent all the time because I really have trouble internalizing caring, feeling accepted and trusting others.
She's told me very deep things about her own childhood, to reach the little, terrified girl in me...I know how old she is, her birthday, I know how many kids she's got and her grandsons. I've seen pictures of them too.
And about gifts, in my case, it has helped me to be more spontaneous, not so afraid of being rejected, and we always discuss why I've chosen a certain gift and it has helped to have very meaningful sessions. I usually give her hand-made things, like drawings and the like.I guess I'm telling you this because sometimes other kinds of boundaries do work for other people and it doesn't mean therapy is not effective or the therapist isn't good. They are just different.
I understand that this approach is more effective to you..
I guess we all need different things and that's perfectly ok. :-)
Frida
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