Posted by Honore on May 6, 2007, at 13:41:13
In reply to Re: why i'm touchy about this » Honore, posted by crushedout on May 6, 2007, at 11:29:08
Anger is a stage, it's necessary and I suppose the question always is what to do with the anger.
Maybe what I'm feeling is that there isn't any one answer, or one thing you can do to completely extinguish it, or find some satisfying way of closure.
I suppose I might also wonder if anger makes you feel so good, do you want to feel angry for a long time, or is it a feeling you want to stop having?
If you did ruin your ex-T's life, do you really think it would make you feel better? I'm just not sure how it could, but I'd like to understand somewhat where you see it taking you. I've never tried to get any sort of revenge, beyond thinking bad thoughts and downgrading someone in my own estimation, or possibly telling other people the bad things I feel they've done to me. You've done that here, and I guess it didn't help that much. I dont know, but it seems dangerous to me to take revenge-- I feel as if it would be hard to live with the feeling that I was being so ruthless or destructive, even if I felt wronged. (I want to say I've been in situations like the one you were in with your T, so I'm not completely without any knowledge of how destructive therapy, or other people in powerful positions, can be.)
Could you say exactly what you imagine you would feel a day or a week after you ruined your ex T's life (as you had said you'd like to, if that is what you would like)? Do you think that really would take away whatever it was/ or is that causes you to want the revenge?
I'm really asking, because I'm not quite sure how one would feel after ruining someone else's life-- no matter what they did. Would it really feel good?
Honore
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