Posted by pegasus on April 14, 2007, at 16:21:01
In reply to Re: thoughts about detaching from old T » pegasus, posted by gazo on April 13, 2007, at 23:31:45
Hi gazo,
Well, I think it will help lay it to rest. I hope it will. That's the goal. Although, I think what I'm trying to lay to rest is not necessarily the whole relationship. I think I'll probably stay in touch still, at least a bit. It just feels nice to. I don't know, maybe we'll talk about that next week.
What I want to lay to rest is all of my hurt and anger at the way the therapy ended. It's been so very very painful. I really think these conversations are helping with that. First of all, just clearing up the misunderstandings really helps. And then, having all that I was trying to tell him way back then actually land with him . . . that's huge.
My old T is a guy, and my new T is female. So, I'm sure that has something to do with how different my feelings are for them. I didn't have a romantic transference to my old T, but there was *some* kind of transference. My new T says she thinks it's a father thing. But he's completely unlike my own father. So I suppose what I was transfering to him was something more like what I had *wanted* from my father. It was definitely a strong attachment, whatever else it might have been.
I hope this is helpful to you.
peg
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