Posted by muffled on February 26, 2007, at 11:38:14
In reply to Re: how'd it go?((Sunnydays)), posted by DisTraught on February 26, 2007, at 2:08:20
> I guess I'm through with therapy. I don't know if it will do any good. I cannot change the past, only how I perceive it, and I've decided to look at my past as a treasure. A T can never do anything for me, I have to do it myself. And so far I've only met braindead Ts. Finding a good one is like looking for a needle in a haystack, and I'd rather use that time on something more fun and rewarding.
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> Penny
>**The past cannot be changed, and it sounds like you have a good attitude.
Trauma is processed differently by different people. What is trauma for one, is seeminly nothing to another. We are all different.
My hubby had a fairly traumatic childhood, but functions well, perhaps as a result of it?! But then there's me....sigh.
IMHO T is only requiered if you are not functioning well in your day to day life. Short term T is good for life stuff that crops up. Long term T is aimed at restoring better quality of life to thise who don't function well for whatever reason.
Many people have some longer term T, stop for years, but go back again for awhile as needed.
So just because there is trauma does not mean you NEED T. Not all do.
There does seem to be a variety of T's out there. There are some that mebbe should not be in the T business at all, there are some that are good, but get in over their heads, etc etc. IMHO its about FIT. And I think too, that it takes time to "fit" with your T. I have not always gotten along w/my T, but we work it out, cuz she has very strong ethics, she is pretty honest with me, and while she is flawed (of course!lol!)she is a good 'fit' on the whole for me. She has been very helpful to me.
So if you think you might need some help, keep looking, but don't expect an instant good fit.
If you don't, then spend all the money you save on FUN STUFF!
My time will come.
Meanwhile, I budget.
Take care.
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