Posted by Dinah on February 18, 2007, at 10:21:01
In reply to How would you react`?, posted by DisTraught on February 18, 2007, at 4:22:45
Are you in an area where you really don't have much choice in therapists?
When my therapist moved out of town temporarily, I had two other therapists. Neither were a good match for me. It was instantly clear that the first wasn't a good match, as she was too confrontational for me to take in what she was saying.
The second took a bit longer to figure out that she wasn't a good match. I'm still not altogether sure why not, other than I think she developed some fixed conclusions that I didn't think were really quite right and operated from those conclusions.
In other words, there are a heck of a lot of frogs out there, and you might have to weed some out before you find a good therapist.
I'd expect an awfully good explanation for the difficulty scheduling an appointment. That seems rather unprofessional, unless he has a very good explanation.
But he had already said he was going to consider the next session your last? That doesn't bode well.
It's true that they aren't mindreaders, and they can't really know anything we don't tell them. But an experienced therapist ought to know that people don't necessarily blurt out their real issues even by the third session. Sometimes it takes time to build up trust. If he has a really short term focus, he might not be willing to put in that time.
In short, there's nothing wrong with giving it one more try, but if it doesn't work out, don't blame yourself or think that therapy won't work. If you have the option of trying a different therapist if this one doesn't work out, please do. Just because one doesn't work out doesn't mean they all won't.
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