Posted by pegasus on February 16, 2007, at 9:39:00
In reply to Re: What should this T do?, posted by Daisym on February 16, 2007, at 0:05:32
Hi Daisy,
This sounds like what she was probably leaning toward. I believe that she didn't tell him yes or no yet, but did try to talk to him about what it means to him that he has those feelings. My guess is that she did talk about transference, but hopefully not in a way that made it seem like his feelings weren't real. She and I did talk about how tricky that was. I recommended not framing it as transference, but I guess he's savvy to the concept already.
She also told me that her supervisor told her that if she developed feelings for him, she'd need to transfer him to another T! I gave her a piece of my mind about that. Sheesh. It's not like sending someone off to another podiatrist or something! And after a year of therapy! What she needs to do in that case (IMHO) is ground herself in the impossibility of having a relationship with him, and then focus on his therapeutic best interests. And keep working with him AND with a good supervisor who can help her through it!
She did tell me that she had been in his shoes with a previous therapist at one point (although she never asked her T to say whether he was attracted to her), and she really felt for this client. She didn't feel like she handled this session all that well, and she wanted to bring up how it went in their next session, and talk about the whole issue more.
Thanks for your tips. I think it sounds like a good approach.
peg
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