Posted by Daisym on February 16, 2007, at 0:05:32
In reply to Re: What should this T do?, posted by annierose on February 15, 2007, at 22:16:53
I think she should explore with him why he feels what he feels and honor those feelings. And I think she can and should share that she enjoys working with him and cares about him (if she does.) But I agree with Annie, even if she is single and "available" she needs to make it clear that her feelings are not romantic or sexual in anyway, which is as it should be, since she is his therapist.
I also think she needs to look at what she knows about this client to guide her response. Is this a shy client who was likely terrified to tell her his feelings? If so, she should acknowledge that and support the expression of feelings. Is this a client who makes conquest of woman a priority? If so, she should call out this pattern and his need to add her to the list. Is this a client who has attachment issues? If so, a gentle exploration of what he really wants (are these maternal feelings mascarading as romantic feelings?)from her might be fruitful.
But please, for gosh sakes, tell her not to label these feelings as "just" transference and leave it there!! *sigh*
poster:Daisym
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