Posted by pegasus on February 15, 2007, at 21:17:24
Ok, so I have this friend who is a T. She told me that she has a client who told her that he has romantic feelings for her. Apparently he asked her point blank whether she also has feelings for him. She was kind of thrown for a loop. The truth is that she likes him, and enjoys doing therapy with him, but is not romantically attracted to him at all. She's been seeing him for about a year.
She didn't tell me anything else, because of confidentiality requirements. I was trying to channel babble in my reply to her, but I wasn't really sure what I thought the right thing was.
Seems to me that if she avoids giving a specific answer, he'll be really frustrated. But if she answers "no" in any clear way, he'll feel rejected, which also won't be good for therapy. Maybe she could say the classic "what would it mean if I said yes/no?"
What would you want her to say if she was your T in this situation?
peg
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