Posted by wishingstar on February 9, 2007, at 19:32:27
In reply to Re: my T called, posted by caraher on February 9, 2007, at 13:17:29
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> GRRR... just say, "Yes, please, thanks for offering." It's just that simple...
>I know... if it were a friend, I would have said yes. But when its my T, shes going outside above her real responsibilities by calling me on the weekend and unless I think I'll be likely to have something to say, I just hate to ask her to do it. I know it's okay to call just because I'm feeling bad too, but I already know what she'd say/suggest so it seems silly to ask her to call just to tell me what I already know.
> I know you know this... don't be so evil to yourself, denying yourself what you want when it's being handed to you!
>Hey, I've heard that phrase before... :) Good point. That's exactly what shed say probably.
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> What can I possibly say? What can anyone possibly say? It doesn't matter that she has no "magic words." Could you please leave her a message to call? Everyone else will feel better even if you're sure you won't; and surely you won't feel worse!
>I know, but you and others are friends... and I'd do the same for you. But she isnt my friend, and I'm not paying her for that time. Its infringing on her personal life and that's okay to an extent (crisis, etc) but I dont want to ask for it when I dont really need it. Sure, it'd be NICE.. but it'd be nice if she called me every day just to check in too. But that doensnt mean it will/should happen.
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> For all you know she has indigestion...
>lol you never know.
> Thanks for updating us. Please accept Ginny's help when she offers it, and stop deciding for her whether she wants to help you. Isn't that awfully patronizing, in a way, for you to decide, in effect, that she really doesn't want to do what she offers to do?
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> (((wishy)))thanks for your response. And again, good point. I know that if she offers, its okay to take it. I guess I dont think of it as patrionizing, but rather maybe me trying to be extra (and yes, overly) considerate, and not taking the best care of myself in the process.
I'm going to see how I'm feeling Sat/Sun and if I do need her and feel like I have something to actually say, I will call. Really.
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