Posted by caraher on February 9, 2007, at 13:17:29
In reply to my T called, posted by wishingstar on February 9, 2007, at 11:53:12
>She asked if I wanted her to call over the weekend to check in and of course I wanted to say yes, but I said it was up to her..GRRR... just say, "Yes, please, thanks for offering." It's just that simple...
I know you know this... don't be so evil to yourself, denying yourself what you want when it's being handed to you!
>>>> I just dont know how I'll be feeling. So she said she'll check her messages around noon on Sat and Sun and to leave her a message if I want her to call me. I probably wont because what can she possibly say?
What can I possibly say? What can anyone possibly say? It doesn't matter that she has no "magic words." Could you please leave her a message to call? Everyone else will feel better even if you're sure you won't; and surely you won't feel worse!
> On one level its very obvious to me that she cares and wants to be there. She wouldnt say all those things otherwise. But on another, I feel like I'm being a huge annoyance and burden for her.
If it's THAT annoying to her, she needs to find another line of work! You're not a burden at all...
>>> I KNOW thats a feeling on my end, nothing shes trying to do.. but it makes me want to hide it when I feel really bad or do something dumb (SI). I dont want to get that tone.
For all you know she has indigestion...
Thanks for updating us. Please accept Ginny's help when she offers it, and stop deciding for her whether she wants to help you. Isn't that awfully patronizing, in a way, for you to decide, in effect, that she really doesn't want to do what she offers to do?
(((wishy)))
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