Posted by Honore on January 29, 2007, at 21:48:59
In reply to Re: Homework » Dinah, posted by Poet on January 29, 2007, at 14:00:26
Maybe you could forgive yourself for being a failure; but maybe you also could think of some ways that you're not.
They might seem like things that "don't really count"-- and maybe they aren't what matters most to you-- but still, there might be some ways.
For example, I was thinking about you last night. I was at a dance performance, and the music was terribly loud (in my opinion). I frequently find the music--or soundtrack-- overwhelming in performances or theatres, and luckily, I also find the subway noise horribly grating, so I tend to have ear plugs. When I was putting them in last night, I was noticing that no one else seemed to be the least bothered by the noise-- and it reminded me of you.
And I was thinking about how it really isn't (to me, about you) sensory defensiveness-- as you or your T put it, a bit uncharitably in my mind-- but a kind of sensitivity that is rare and very valuable. Sometimes it leads to being overstimulated, in a world where there is so much stimulation-- but say in the forest, if you were in a group and there were reasons to be aware of different signs in nature-- your abilities would be critical to so many things.
I wasn't thinking that last night-- but just how you would hear so much if you were listening to music, or watching dance. I was thinking that your extremely finely tuned and reactive senses-- which are sometimes a hindrance, might also enable to you to hear music or tones of voice-- or other things, with an awareness that is wonderful.
So anyway-- that's one thing you could forgive yourself for-- maybe, eventually?
Honore
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