Posted by Poet on January 28, 2007, at 11:44:59
In reply to Re: Homework » Poet, posted by Daisym on January 27, 2007, at 12:38:10
Hi Daisy,
Thanks for helping me with my homework. T tried having me frame it in therapy where I am feeling compassion for someone else and I to quote her *made it 20 seconds* before I said the person was a failure. I told her that when I've done something worthy of self compassion I'll have it. Hence the homework assignment.
You have some good ideas as to how to tackle my homework. I'm going to try to do the negative with a positive: *this is what happened, this is why it wasn't my fault.*
You are right that I would never say that you are at fault for being abused. I can try to start with being young and vulnerable, at least list it as a reason to feel compassion. The hard part for me is listing things that I beat myself up over, it's hard to feel compassion when I'm full of self blame.
I'll gladly trade homework assignments with you. I think bathroom breaks count as a little pocket of freedom during the day, as long as the door has a good lock on it. I used to hide in the bathroom at work or in my car. My car was a real haven even when it was snowing and cold outside I'd shiver in the car, but feel free because I was all alone. I so love being alone.
Thanks for your help. I see my T on Friday and I may babblemail you my list, if you don't mind.
Poet
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