Posted by Daisym on January 27, 2007, at 12:38:10
In reply to Homework, posted by Poet on January 27, 2007, at 11:52:12
This sounds like a really tough assignment. We could trade - mine is to try and figure out how to find little pockets of freedom during the day when I don't have to respond to the pressures of my life. I'm thinking--bathroom breaks?
Maybe give yourself permission to trade off - write a negative and then write something that just happened. Or next to the negative, write as honestly as you can what you could control and what you couldn't. Do it without judgement - for example, "I was fired" - "I can't control someone else's stupid decision."
The other thing I do is pretend it was someone else. If you were talking to me about being abused, would you say it was my fault? I think it was in different places and in different times. But what would you say? I can say your mom should have protected you from your brother, you were too young to protect yourself. But what would you say here? Maybe you might even start with things that really do need just compassion - like being young and vulnerable.
This is really hard homework but valuable. Let me know if I can help. I'm with your therapist on this one, you are way too hard on yourself.
Love and hugs,
Daisy
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