Posted by mair on January 24, 2007, at 21:32:03
In reply to Re: My T's Appearance, posted by Honore on January 24, 2007, at 15:26:52
Wow - thanks so much for the cites. From just reading the summaries, it looks like these would be good for me to look at more closely. At least some of what is described are feelings that I can identify with. I've been feeling pretty guilty about the way I'm reacting, but maybe it's not all that unusual.
You'd think there would be a lot of studies on this sort of thing. Ts certainly get sick like the rest of us.
I trust my T's sense of professionalism - I'm pretty confident that she would take a break if she felt that she was bringing too much of her own stuff into the room. The only "stuff" she's bringing into the room now is her seriously altered appearance, and visible fatigue - that's enough.
One thing i hadn't thought about until I read your post was a comment that she made early on about how the truncated scheduling would mean that we couldn't really do the same sort of transference-based therapy. I'm amazingly unmindful of the bigger picture. I rarely think about the type of therapy we're doing and how it's different from anyone else's therapy. So to me, the less we meet, the less I feel like we need to meet. I'm sure part of the reason for this is that I need to meet with her pretty frequently to feel an ongoing sense of connection to her and to therapy. I'm stable enough these days that I'm not going to fall apart if I have to miss a bunch of sessions - but it also means, I guess, that I'm not going to get the benefit of the slow plodding progress we'd make otherwise.
I live very near a good medical school and I'm sure I can get access to the library. I'll try to get over there to take a look at the materials you referenced.
Thank you
mair
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