Posted by wishingstar on November 27, 2006, at 19:31:03
In reply to Re: im still around » wishingstar, posted by TherapyGirl on November 27, 2006, at 17:24:19
Thanks therapygirl, both for answering and thinking of me, and for sharing more about your ex crazy T.
I think time is what it will take for me too. Time has helped so far. And I think as I get closer to Ginny and trust her more, I wont wish for Anne as much... even though saying that is silly because I wasnt actually really close to Anne. I just wanted so desperatly to be.
Had I not already contacted Anne since this incident, I'd definitely send a letter. I agree with you that it's good to call someone out when theyve acted inappropriately in this way, especailly a professional. But a few days post-termination, I left her a not-too-kind letter in her box saying that what she did was hurtful, unprofessional, and that she should know better. It was about 2 pages long. I ran into her when I was dropping it off and we talked for a minute... she knew I was angry and hurt, but it was a very brief conversation. Then a few weeks later I ran into her at a restaurant, asked for a termination session, and she seemed very hesitant but said shed think about it. A few days later, I left a message on her voicemail retracting my request and saying that I didnt understand her resistance to terminating fairly but that it was her issue, not mine. Not very kind, obviously. 2 weeks later or so she sent me a letter, the text of which I posted on here. It was very brief, not very personal, and still missed the point.
So given that, is writing a letter really justified and/or worth my time? I dont want to beat a dead horse, but at the same time, I do feel like I have a lot of "new" things to say, and it would be a kinder, more detached letter this time.. not the angry, hurt one I wrote last time. But I dont want to be "the client who just wont go away" either.. I dont want to be the crazy one in the end of this, you know? I hope that makes sense. I even am starting to feel that way talking about it with Ginny.. as though I just need to be quiet and get over it. I'm obsessing and overreacting and need to just get a grip. I'm embarassed to even mention it. But really, I dont know that theres much more I can say about it anyway.
I like what your good T said about crazy T representing all the people who have let you down. That makes a lot of sense to me as well. I just needed her to not be another one of those people, you know? It's amazing I can still bring up tears over this... geez!!
I miss Laurie quite a bit recently. I wrote her a very nice (I think) thank you card and mailed it a week or so ago. I'm sure shes gotten it by now. I was sort of hoping she'd call, but I'm not upset she didnt.. disappointed maybe, but not upset. I didnt really expect her to, I just hoped. I know she got the message and knows how much I appreciate her, and that was really my goal.
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