Posted by Daisym on November 2, 2006, at 0:54:19
In reply to Re: Exactly Racer » muffled, posted by toojane on November 1, 2006, at 8:23:18
I guess I'm going to disagree. I think feeling the feelings is like taking your hand OUT of the fire.
When you have a burn, it hurts like hell at first - if you take the ice away that is numbing it, or pull it back from the heat that burned it in the first place. But keeping it out of the fire and not burning it more with ice, allows it to heal. It just hurts a whole lot in the mean time. But it isn't being re-injured if it is treated right.
Does that make sense?
I know it is hard. But the only way to the other side is through the dark tunnel. At least in my experience. I'm not saying you have to relive all the memories. I think though you have to allow yourself your feelings again. How else will you ever feel happy, or glad or peaceful?
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