Posted by Racer on October 26, 2006, at 13:07:05
In reply to please explain me and this **trigs ED, SI...?, posted by ElaineM on October 25, 2006, at 21:14:40
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> Things are so messed up. Stuff is going on in sessions that I know aren't normal. But then T does something incredibly generous and helpful - especially because I don't have a physician right now. He takes care of things I couldn't have organized myself. But then there's all the other stuff that is making me even more insane than I am. And something I'm finding really hard is that I can read stuff on the board about what other T's have said or done, and my T *has* done and said those things, and they felt like nothing. But then when people say that that was good of the T it gets me really confused.
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> And he said that maybe I should work hard to lose weight!!! And he said that it could be good. He said that I've always said that I felt good and healthy when I was AN (which I did/do think), and now I am opposite, so he said he'd be a liar if he tried to pretend that some people aren't just happier when they keep their weight low. God I just can't believe that he said that.
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> But maybe it's true.Elaine, you do know better. You know that AN isn't a healthy way to live. You know that you can't decide to go back there in order to get better -- you can only go back there in order to get sicker and sicker and sicker still. You know that.
I'd be lying if I said I didn't think there was a problem. I do think there's a very real, very significant problem here. (No, silly, not you!) From what you've written over the time I've seen your posts here, I have formed an opinion that this guy does NOT have your best interests first and foremost in his mind. I've formed the opinion that this therapist is dangerous for you. What you've written above is so outrageous I'm almost lost for words.
I'm not going to say much more, because I really have had an emotional reaction to this. I'm pretty hot right now, so to protect myself from being incivil, I will make the rest of this pretty short...
If I had to guess, based only on what I've read here in your posts, I'd say the reason you're not responding to certain things the way others do is that you don't have the trust built up that others here might have, or might be building. I would guess that you don't trust your T, and that's why the things that are good for others aren't feeling good for you.
I know you have some difficulties with access to other Ts. I hope you do find a new T, someone who really can help you. Someone you can trust. Someone who's dedicated to helping you satisfy your needs, not using you to satisfy his/her needs. It hasn't ever sounded as though you've got that now.
Best luck, Elaine. I hope things get much better for you soon.
poster:Racer
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