Posted by Racer on October 26, 2006, at 0:51:48
In reply to Re: Well, of course Laurie is right -- she's the T » Racer, posted by wishingstar on October 25, 2006, at 16:03:15
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> Laurie double-booked on me about a month ago and I was VERY upset.. especially after driving 2 hours to get there. So that could be what happened again and she didnt want to tell me. She called me around 8pm Thurs night to change it, and my appt was for 11 on Friday (we changed it to noon). Makes it sound like she had an emergency.Hm... Whatever the truth of the thing, I'm very sorry this happened to you. You deserve better. (EVERYONE deserves better! That's just NOT OK.)
>This sounds silly, but I keep thinking.. what do I have to say/do to qualify as an emergency?
I hope you can recognize the problem with this kind of thinking, though. (You know I'm not a big fan of CBT, right? Doesn't mean I don't see some good in it, too...) When I first read this, earlier tonight, I was afraid you might create a situation in which you really are an emergency, and that only hurts you. And I don't want you to be hurt. I want you to become UNhurt.
Just... I hope you take care of yourself, and shift the responsibility around some. You're not responsible for someone else not treating you with respect. You don't have to move in one direction, in order to get someone to where they should be in this dance. Honestly -- the only thing I've ever found yet in life that is supposed to be like tug-o-war *IS* a game of tug-o-war!
> And I heard her say see them on Friday.. I guess they got the last friday spot? This is hard for me to even let myself think, because it's so against everything my parents ever told me.. but.... what about me? That feels selfish, but I think my logical side knows it isnt.
Honey, I hope you can find the strength to ask her about that. Find out what she has to say. It's also possible that she already sees them on Friday, and had to move their slot for some reason. (Although I still don't like that she moved you to accommodate them. But that's me, and there may have been a good reason for it.)
Do you have a regular slot on Fridays? Or does it change a lot?
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> Thank you for the hopeful words about new Ts and all. I sure hope so. I saw a new one today and really didnt like him. I'll post about that in a few minutes. Ugh. I just dont know.
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>Good. I'm glad that you are looking at this as an interviewing process, that's the best way -- in my not at all humble opinion on this process -- to find the right fit in a therapist. I hope the next interview is better.
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