Posted by pegasus on October 18, 2006, at 10:26:38
In reply to got a letter from anne, posted by wishingstar on October 17, 2006, at 9:48:24
God, I have such mixed feelings about that letter. It *does* sound nice, and I'm sure Anne meant it to be helpful. I mean, why else send it? She expresses some warm feelings, like good hopes for you, etc. And what she says about unproductive relationships is technically true, and phrased in a lovely way if you don't know the history . . .
But . . . It is really disturbing how she has just slammed the door in your face. And never apologizes or owns how she's treated you badly. I'm very thankful that most Ts don't behave like that when they believe that a relationship has become unproductive. I mean, geez, there's *unproductive*, and then there's *damaging*.
Actually, this letter is kind of like she opened the door after she slammed it, and then dressed it up in ribbons and perfume and then slammed it again. I bet she doesn't even see how that might feel from your point of view.
I'm really sorry you keep getting stomped on by Anne with her clumsy, unaware big feet. Just keep telling yourself that it's *her* not *you*. It's ok to think about this a lot. If you're obsessing, it's still ok. It's Laurie and Ginny's jobs to help you with that. And that's what we're here for too. We're good with obsessions. :)
p
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