Posted by Daisym on October 13, 2006, at 23:26:10
In reply to Asked my T if she ever worked with anyone like me?, posted by Lindenblüte on October 13, 2006, at 20:23:46
I remember asking that question. It is so loaded...mostly the "is it OK if I tell you all this stuff" question behind the question.
I don't know if inner children are fun. When you feel them, and they "come out" it can be an incredible experience, but scary as hell. I'm in another round of squash those voices if at all possible. Sometimes I'm more willing to try to get all the parts and pieces to work together.
It would have scared me if my therapist had said, "our work will be long term." How did it make you feel?
I think you are brave too.
It is my experience that initial tears are very much connected to the relief of being heard. As you learn to trust your new therapist, and you learn how to name your emotions, you might find that you begin to connect and feel things - more tears and likely, lots of rage. I swore for two years that there was no rage, no anger in all of this. Guess what? Eventually it surfaced. But for you, it might be quicker, different or non-existant. It is a process to figure all this out.
My caution about hoping for that complete emotional release is that one time is unlikely to be enough. I haven't let go completely - I don't see myself ever (ever, ever!) doing that - but the times when I have sobbed really hard, it did feel better eventually. And then the wound filled up again and needed to be drained again, and so on. (Racer's analogy of an infection.) I rant about therapy not being an after school special in which a good cry solves all.
Have you settled on a schedule yet? It sounds like a lot got said today. I hope the ice cream helps.
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