Posted by annierose on October 13, 2006, at 21:32:49
In reply to annierose, i 'took' you to therapy with me..., posted by bent on October 13, 2006, at 12:29:31
I feel honored. I have brought babblers in my therapy session as well.
Knowing that you matter is important. I have asked my t directly and indirectly that question many times. Yes, she tells me she cares about me. She tells me I matter. She tells me that she does hold me in her mind and heart when we are not together --- BUT --- a there is a little voice inside my head that says, "don't believe her for a second". Then another voice says, "I think you can, I think she is kind and smart and means what she says."
My T says I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop and I search for any mis-step she might make -- a word whose meaning I don't like, a tone I find unpleasant, etc. etc. My point, even if your t does tell you she cares (and deep in your heart you must know she does) that feeling that just maybe she doesn't might still linger.
Therapy is hard. I think you should continue to bring this subject up. Sometimes I'll start a session, "I wasn't finished talking about what we were discussing last time." If she asks, "Why now?" say, "Why not? Coming here opening up my emotional life is hard. I need to know the person receiving this cares about me."
I am so glad my posts were able to inspire you in some way. That is what makes babble a wonderful community of learning and sharing. You helped make my day in return.
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