Posted by Lindenblüte on October 2, 2006, at 21:55:03
In reply to Re: Hubby trubble**trigger?** » muffled, posted by TherapyGirl on October 2, 2006, at 16:51:06
Hi Muffled,
I'm so glad your husband is a wonderful man. It makes other things more bearable. Maybe you can talk about this relationship next time you see T. You can tell her that there is always a difficult awkward "homecoming" readjustment, but that this time it's particularly strange.Tell her that the thing that bothers you the most has to do with your sexual relationship, and then let her kind of help you- lead you in the right direction. She may help you understand that the intimacy problems are related to other things that you aren't really aware of (and I DON'T mean childhood stuff either!)
Of course, if it's been a while, well, you have to get to know your husband all over again. It's really strange sometimes, and I've been there. Sometimes it will feel right up to a certain point and then I'm like. OMG! who IS this guy?!?
Maybe you two should get a babysitter and go out on an old-fashioned date. Have a nice relaxing dinner out. Look in his eyes and get to know him again. I read somewhere that guys can't feel intimate unless having sex. Women can't have sex without feeling intimate. Bummer, huh?
-Li
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