Posted by alexandra_k on September 25, 2006, at 3:38:28
In reply to Oh, Dear, posted by Susan47 on September 24, 2006, at 23:45:58
i was reading this article over the weekend. it was about... erotic transference. apparantly there are two models of why that happens... and the article was a case study write up and i think he was kinda switching between the two models and he said there seemed to be something more to it... or whatever. i don't remember the article very well to tell you the honest truth. what i remember was one of the models. i can't remember the other model. but one of the models...
the notion was that erotic transference can be a defence against feelings of dependency and powerlessness. because... we feel dependent and clingy and we find that repulsive and scarey. because when you feel like that people abuse you and break your trust or leave or whatever. so the feelings of dependency and powerlessness morph... into erotic attachment. or hatred sometimes. a way of equalising the power balance... or a way of having power over. because of fear susan.
don't know how this helps if this helps if this is relevant. i didn't get to do any work this weekend. i read that... dammit. round and round and round...
(((((susan)))))) i'm sorry.
is it about... going back further... is it about your dad susan? 'cause you loved your dad but he hurt you and stuff so it wasn't safe for you to be dependent on him. then your t comes along and all your feelings for your dad come up. but the feelings of dependency are too hard to bear so instead... they get morphed into erotic attachment and stuff...
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