Posted by llrrrpp on September 16, 2006, at 16:34:02
In reply to I am feeling some compassion for my husband, posted by happyflower on September 16, 2006, at 8:17:32
Hi HappyFlower
That sounds really difficult. I'm never really sure with you whether your marriage is over or not. I can't tell whether there is any love left once you peel away all the anger, regrets, resentment, dissapointment, sadness (...).Compassion is kind of positive, but it's not love. It's certainly not a feeling that you'd want to base your marriage on.
Have you had a moment when you have allowed yourself to feel any love? Is it still there-- just very quiet? Is there enough love? Is it possible to grow some more if there is a seed in there?
In the meanwhile, eat some pancakes. If you're taking ibuprofen or something like that for your pain, you need food in your tummy anyways. You could probably always use a nice antique mirror in a hallway to reflect some light and do a teeth-spinach check before running (limping *grin!*) out the door. Or maybe a teapot and a set of cups. You can appreciate a pretty thing, independently of your husband, as long as it has a function that is meaningful to you.
Well, I'll be thinking of you and your family. Anniversaries are kind of strange...
-ll
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