Posted by Jost on September 6, 2006, at 23:19:54
In reply to Falling off the pedestal, posted by littleone on September 6, 2006, at 21:52:08
My T is special, although not because he's not an "ordinary" person--- or at least not because he's on a pedestal.
For example, he makes mistakes, has worries, bad feelings about himself--gets into bad moods, is tired, irrational (at times) discouraged, insensitive, even intemperate.
As a person, he's unusual--intelligent, thoughtful, experienced, interesting, and other things--but mostly, he's someone I care about, and like a lot, and want to know about. That, not to the exclusion of working on my issues, but as part of it-- and in ways that seem important, not in the ways that seem peripheral, or somehow not within my sphere.
What about your T seems suddenly to make him "ordinary"? What does it mean if he is ordinary?
Are you feeling that ordinariness can't come with specialness, or magicalness? -- Not a magic that confers perfect insight or an unlimited power of making things right--
Mostly aliveness, presence, connection rather than detachment, indifference, or nothingness.
Jost
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