Posted by Dinah on June 15, 2006, at 9:35:11
In reply to Re: You know what I think :-) » orchid, posted by Tamar on June 15, 2006, at 5:31:18
I *so* understand because I feel the same way.
But to protect myself I had to learn what my therapist can and can't do. He's great at some things, not great at others. So now when he tells me at the end of a session that he's leaving for a week the next day. Oops. Sorry he didn't tell me till the very last minute, I just smile wryly.
And when he tells me that he isn't going to push me, because he's not that kind of therapist, and if I want that kind of therapist I'll have to find another one, I accept that he really *isn't* that kind of therapist, for a lot of the same reasons I adore him.
Your therapist has been trained in a part of the world that is sort of rigid about using the "proven" techniques, even though they've also been proven to have limits to their helpfulness with subpopulations. It sounds as if he's *trying* to stretch his theoretical technique to work with you, and that's in his favor. But he's not trained in it, he's not comfortable with it, and it likely does make him a bit uncomfortable. Not anything to do with you and your worthiness or likeability. But most people do feel uncomfortable when they operate outside their comfort zone, especially if they've been trained a bit rigidly.
So I reserve my slap for the system, which lets down so many people in the name of serving the greatest number. Because while Mr. Spock is often right, so is Captain Kirk. Especially since the needs of the few don't have to conflict with the needs of the many. They just have to be acknowledged and accounted for.
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