Posted by Tamar on June 15, 2006, at 5:31:18
In reply to You know what I think :-) » Tamar, posted by orchid on June 14, 2006, at 20:02:41
> LOL I won't say it again. But you are making me say it. You should find a better T. IT will solve all the problems. He is probably good, but not good for you.
Ha ha! Yeah, I know. You are probably right.
I was thinking about what you said, because I really do think it’s too hard at the moment, and I was wondering whether working with a different therapist might be the best answer.
But I’ve just realised that it’s sort of like trying to think about getting a new mother or father. My parents have made a lot of mistakes with me, but they’re the people I have a family relationship with. I can look for other father figures, but no one else can be my own father. And I still want to have a relationship with him. And I think it’s similar with my therapist. Even though he’s not perfect, he’s *my* therapist. He’s the one I have the transference with. He’s the one who helped me when things were very bad before.
I just can’t imagine giving up the relationship. If he ever did anything that really damaged me I’d walk away. But I love him and I can’t imagine giving up my relationship with him.
I guess I have to keep trying.
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