Posted by LadyBug on April 19, 2006, at 15:12:01
In reply to need support and suggestions please, posted by fairywings on April 19, 2006, at 12:29:07
(((((((fairywings)))))))
I can relate to you. I'm not saying your husband is guilty or not, but I've been through this and my gut instint was right on. I told my husband for over 2 years to stay away from one of his female employees and he refused to listen or even care about how I felt. He was full of lies and would tell me he was only trying to help her build her home business. I said, that isn't your responsibility... He ended up getting fired last Sept. for being involved with her!!! He could no longer deny it!! Except I think she was more in it for a friendship and he was in it for an affair. I know this from an e-mail he accidently left open on the computer. She was telling him "no" and trying to be polite about it. I about blew a gasket at the time.
I like you, can't support myself and my girls. I have a job, but there is no way I make enough. So I stayed in the marriage and I regret every min. of everyday! I don't love him anymore and can't wait till I can get out of this marriage, I left emotionally. I can't be as nice to him as I should, I'm angry and hurt. And he wonders why???? This isn't the first time he's been unfaithful. He cheated on me once about 9 years ago. I wasn't as hurt then, because it was with someone he didn't actually know. I know most people would just leave and that is my plan. If not for our kids, I would leave and move in with my parents if I had too. but they won't consider it and I don't blame them.
All I can say is, the wife usually has a gut feeling and you need to go with it. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It hurts more than anything I've ever been through. I want to leave. I can tolerate many imperfections, but there's no excure for this one. It hurts me to even write about it.
I've talked to my T a lot about my feelings and it hurts so much. She told me last week that indeed our marriage has failed and I need to think about really leaving. I'm jeolous of her marriage, I'm sure it's wonderful, she had told me that before. I've been married for almost 22 years, so the decision is hard.Keep in touch and let us know how it goes.
Hugs
LadyBug
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