Posted by jammerlich on April 17, 2006, at 16:59:40
In reply to another opinion, FWIW, posted by Anneke on April 17, 2006, at 15:56:13
I sent an email telling her how sorry I was her husband was ill and how hard I knew it must be on her. I said I understood she needed to be with him and I would pray that it was nothing serious. And I offered to drop off dinner tomorrow night.
In response to her question about how I was doing, I told her I didn't know what to say except that I'm here. I also said I didn't want to reschedule because the anxiety has just been too much. I said that I hadn't concerned her with the details of it and had been tolerating it because I knew it would be over soon. But now, I can't say it's going to end soon and I'm worried about what will happen to me if I continue like this.
I wish I'd read Racer's post before I did it. It probably would have been better to do as she suggested and not make it so black and white. And I didn't thank her for all the trouble she'd gone to in arranging everything. Really kicking myself for that one.
I didn't aim to make her feel worse and I think I did the best I could to not blame and to own all my feelings. I did not use words like "sad" and "abandoned" and I didn't really even say I was upset that plans changed. Only that I didn't feel like it was good for me to let the anxiety continue.
A big thank you to everyone. I appreciate ALL the input. I hope you'll stick around with your support and good advice.
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