Posted by Anneke on April 17, 2006, at 15:56:13
In reply to please help, posted by jammerlich on April 17, 2006, at 0:46:40
I have to respectfully disagree a bit here...I don't think that it would be wrong for jammerlich to share her disappointment with her friend....that's what friends do. Her friend ASKED how she's doing, she knows she's been having a rough time. If it were me, I'd want to know the truth; I'd want to know if there was something else I could do to help her. She wouldn't have asked if she didn't want to know. And if jammerlich doesn't tell her, she might think that it's not such a big deal after all, that she's doing better, etc., etc.
I may be projecting here, but I think a big issue for a lot of us here is being able to ask for help when we need it and not feeling that our problems and needs are less important than someone else's. I'm not saying she should throw a tantrum in front of her friend about this, but telling her that she's disappointed that they won't be able to go and that she feels sad about it and that she's really struggling right now to hold things together....I don't think that's such an awful thing, especially since her friend is obviously concerned about her. Of course, you'd want to say the obvious things about how sorry you are that her husband is sick and is there anything you can do to help. But, I don't think this has to be an either/or situation.
As far as the consult with a friend's sister, I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing either. When I first saw a pdoc for post-partum depression, it was a close colleague of my husband's. It actually made it easier for me because I knew that it was someone who really had my best interests at heart and who wasn't some "quack". That being said, she mostly did meds management for me and isn't my T, but I think it can work to consult with someone you know if it feels comfortable to you.
In any case...we all agree this situation stinks... ((((jammerlich))))
poster:Anneke
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