Posted by Tamar on April 16, 2006, at 18:41:15
In reply to frightful row, posted by milly on April 16, 2006, at 17:08:23
> I've just had the most frightful row with hubby, I asked why he was so distant with me at the moment, he said he wasn't so i felt completly paranoid and back to that 'not trusting what I *know* to be true' but when I pushed him he blamed me for not talking to him anymore because of having my T and then he blamed babble.
Argh! Maybe he’s a bit jealous, and not sure of his place in your life after the changes that doing therapy has made for you? It doesn’t sound as if he’s handling it well.
> it was horrible, i have 2 choices, 1) i leave babble, 2) I go now and make love to him and see if that sweetens his mood enough to let me stay.
Let you stay? Is he threatening to throw you out of the house? Are you in danger?
It doesn’t sound to me as if you want to have sex right now. I hope you don’t feel you *have* to have sex if you don’t want to. I tend to think it’s a very bad idea.
Would it help if you talk to your husband more calmly, when you’re able to? I don’t know exactly what’s going on, of course, but his behaviour is NOT your responsibility. If he feels left out or neglected, there are other ways for him to deal with those feelings; he doesn’t *have* to be distant.
> sh*t not in a good place right now
I hope it gets better soon. Big rows are horrible. I hope you won’t feel you have to leave Babble because we like you very much and we’d miss you! And I don’t know how much support you have in ‘real life’ but I know that finding people who really understand can be quite a challenge.
Take good care of yourself, and please don’t do anything you don’t want to do…
Love,
Tamar
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