Posted by Dinah on April 2, 2006, at 11:35:50
In reply to Re: Of course (possible trigger), posted by gardenergirl on April 2, 2006, at 9:28:46
I've been absorbing myself in dolls again. Which isn't really good because I should be absorbing myself in work. At least I didn't spend any money. But it managed to calm me down.
We had a huge blowup fight the other night, quite without me mentioning my alternative plans. I merely commented that he didn't seem to be doing anything like preparing his resume, when he had promised both my son and I that he would at least look locally.
After a huge fight where it came out that he had had no intention of doing anything but going where he was sent, even if it was the place we really don't want to go for many reasons. And after he made clear to me that if we stayed he'd hold me personally responsible for any future evacuations or damage from hurricanes. He agreed that he had promised, looked around, and found there were decent jobs in his field locally. He's not hopeful about getting them in this economy but he'll try.
So the compromise is that he'll look around locally if we get sent to the place we really don't want to go, but not if we get sent away to the other two possibilities. One of which is too far away to see my therapist, but has good schools for my son. One of which doesn't have great schools for my son, but I can see my therapist. The third place that we don't want to go has neither of these mitigating factors, which is the main reason we don't want to go there.
I don't know. Now that I know that he'll blame me personally for anything that goes wrong, I almost think it would be better to have let him do whatever he wanted to do, and made my decision based on that. :(
poster:Dinah
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