Posted by Racer on March 28, 2006, at 18:30:00
In reply to Inlaws' problems triggering my old issues-long, posted by gardenergirl on March 28, 2006, at 2:37:46
I think you should be exactly yourself, and they'll be lucky to have you.
Oh, wait -- you are and they are.
This situation is so rotten, I'm sorry you're all in it. It's probably a very good thing, though, that you can recognize what your triggers are in it, though, because can you imagine how much worse you'd feel if you didn't see them for what they are? It's got to be especially hard for you right now, too, with losing your grandmother so recently. Pretty lousy timing for you, huh?
Is there anything you can think of that would feel good to you right now? Go in for a massage? Buy a new eyeshadow? (Oh wait -- that's me, isn't it?) Remember -- in order to support your husband, you gotta make sure you're not gonna fall down yourself. That means taking care of yourself, doing nice things for yourself, and being able to recharge yourself. You have a few things I know of that help you do that: therapy, massage, and I think EyeShadow Therapy would be good for you, too... ;-)
Also, what about support groups? Support groups for younger people who are facing this sort of situation? Support groups for those who are trying to support their spouses during this sort of situation? A support group for your MIL, for spouses of sick men who won't see their doctors and make all the rules? You know support groups have helped me. Maybe there's something around that could help you and the GardenerBoy? Someplace where you can say things out loud, knowing others have probably said them, too.
Exes and Ohs, GG.
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