Posted by madeline on March 23, 2006, at 17:52:23
In reply to Last night, I realized it's not just about the rag, posted by Racer on March 23, 2006, at 12:14:19
Racer,
Who told you that you had to be responsible for your abuse as a kid? Did I read that right?
What happened to us as children was completely out of our control. We were totally at someone else's mercy and there is no magic potion we can take to change it.
I used to have a huge problem with really strong emotions, like they would just suck me up and totally overwhelm me. I still have a little problem with that, but allowing myself to grieve for myself and all of that wasted wasted time has been so beneficial to me.
There is so much in the world that is so scary to us, and you have to take each things bit by bit.
But there can be freedom from abuse. It doesn't have to rule the day now. My T even says he has patients that can look at it as "just something that happened all those years ago".
There can be healing, control and love.
We get to be responsible for our lives and how we live them.
My thoughts are with you. I understand, I really really do.
poster:madeline
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