Posted by TherapyGirl on March 23, 2006, at 9:11:53
In reply to Re: But I don't *want* to have been an abused chil, posted by Racer on March 22, 2006, at 22:52:59
Racer, your posts just break my heart. I understand about the stuff that was drilled into your head before you were old enough to know better and I know how hard it is to undo that now, but please keep working on it.
I continue (after 21 years of therapy) to struggle with that myself. The things I heard are similar to the things you heard, with an added, "WHY are you crying about it? Crying about something NEVER makes it better." And, "In 20 years, this won't matter, so why cry about it now?" Needless to say, I have more of a problem expressing sadness or crying than I do with anger. I do anger extremely well -- the trick there has been to learn to direct it to the appropriate people.
It is *not* your fault OR your responsibility. I think Emily made that point better than I ever could. Take care of yourself and give yourself the break you would give another person, okay?
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