Posted by LegWarmers on January 28, 2006, at 8:05:47
In reply to Re: Had a bad/good day/session » LegWarmers, posted by Daisym on January 27, 2006, at 10:33:13
> Your pain is almost tangible in your posts. I've been right where you are at least 100 times. I have to say that offering you more sessions speaks pretty highly of your therapist and his commitment to helping you work through. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, (go more), but instead of making you hurt more it actually helps to contain those feelings and hurt less. At least that has been my experience most of the time.
Yeah, I know what you mean, it's just, when I said I didn't want to come in as often it looked like I had literally fired him. He was like, no you need to work on this and that. I suddenly felt, like I was just a check. Maybe I was being totally sensitive but my gut reaction to him and what and how he said what he said, you don't care about me, you don't want to lose a patient!
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> All that said, let me see if I can channel my therapist when I come in and say what you've said:
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> He would say, "let's talk about the reasons you started therapy in the first place. Have those been resolved?" And he would ask me if anything good has come out of our work together. And usually he'll ask if I need something from him that I'm not getting. We would then talk about what it might feel like to stop therapy and my safety.
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> You shouldn't feel pressured to keep going if it isn't helping. But I agree that you feel worse before you feel better and it cycles like this. Each layer that gets peeled off does make you question everything as you discover new information about yourself and your motives for doing what you do.
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> I know this is really complicated. I think this is where the attachment issue comes in strongly. If your are attached to your therapist, even when you hate therapy, you trust that this is worth it and there is an additional incentive to work through it.
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> Good luck with your decision. You are right when you say therapy isn't for everyone. Some things are best left unexplored.
> Hugs,
> DaisyMaybe I do not let my self ever trust my t, I think I always have this feeling :( I never realized it before. Maybe it it is more my issue than his. I need to think about this more.
Thank you Daisy, you've given me some things to think about.
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