Posted by James K on January 26, 2006, at 14:00:40
In reply to victim or perpetrator *trigger*, posted by B2chica on January 26, 2006, at 10:53:52
You're complete story is too far up the page to reread, plus I don't feel comfortable (as a male) to research you like that.
I think, what your brother did as a child, he might not could of control. there is an age of accountability though. thoughts are sick, actions are evil.
I think it is okay to be furious at what was done to you and the perpetrators while still feeling sorrow and understanding of what they've gone through. Forgiveness is something you can choose to do if and when you feel like it. The important thing is to be able to remember without the pain.
It took a long time for me to not be a victim. Bad stuff happened to me and continued to happen long after I thought I should have been able to excert the control. I can be very scarey now, and that's no answer. The answer is in the middle.
You have my support and prayer just now. (if you would prefer that males stay out of this, just let me know in a post or babblemail - no hard feeling at all, or maybe I'm oversensitive to a non-issue)
James K
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