Posted by fairywings on January 15, 2006, at 0:18:53
In reply to Advice and possible explanation of behavior?, posted by Racer on January 14, 2006, at 16:44:16
Hi Racer, it's hard not to feel guilty when you care about others, but it's not fair for her to put you in that position. It's not your responsibility. She got herself into this, and now she'll have to grow up really fast and take responsibility.
She sounds dependent, like she has a rescue fantasy, seeks pity, doesn't want to own up to her mistakes or problems, like she plays the victim, etc... I know how bad it feels not to step in, but where does it ever end? and is she only taking and never giving? Maybe give her a list of house cleaning services and shopping services.
I can really identify with what you're going through because we have someone who is the same way, but different circumstances. They blew through a LOT of money, and are now w/o health insurance, car, and very soon home. They work but don't make enough to live on. They always depended on two people, but now those 2 are gone. They now want a few others to step in a save the day financially. This person is sick physically and emotionally, and I feel horrible for them, but we have a family and can't support another adult, esp. one with so many issues.
I wish you the best in trying to deal with this,
fw
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