Posted by fallsfall on January 14, 2006, at 22:31:11
In reply to Re: Advice and possible explanation of behavior?, posted by Racer on January 14, 2006, at 20:35:19
You may need to wean her away from expecting you to rescue her. For instance - for her "I need food, but I'm too sick to get any" - you could drop off a loaf of bread and a jars of peanut butter and jelly. No visit. Just leave the food. Fix the problem without gratifying.
For the "OD's" my attitude would be "Gee, you need to figure out a way to make sure that you are more aware of what you are taking". Maybe give her a calendar so she can write down whenever she takes anything.
The hard part is to remain a caring friend while refusing to participate in the drama.
I found that when I disappeared as an audience that the behavior mellowed, and things are significantly improved now. But, boy, was it hard to do.
Good luck.
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