Posted by one woman cine on December 13, 2005, at 13:54:26
In reply to Re: I came here for support , not to be critized » one woman cine, posted by happyflower on December 13, 2005, at 13:24:55
I don't think anyone wants to hang you out to dry!
I do think though the spirit of what orchid was trying to say, was to take things slow and mull everything over. You have been posting alot about this, and I can intuit that you are conflicted. Your therapist wanted to break it off, and you were hesitant (you wrote you were feeling pressured), you wrote that Dr. B post, a short while ago. It's the holidays and I think it's generally a very emotional time.
When relationships aren't working out it's a very painful place to be. It seems like you are beginning to advocate for yourself in terms of your marriage, is that right? It sounds like you have alot on your plate right now, & maybe you need some support in therapy & maybe with more frequency.
Is it possible to wait and make a decision when you are not in such a emotional space?
I think it may well turn out the relationship has no hope of working & I hope you continue towards resolving this.
It also sounds like you have alot conflict (in terms of ambivalent feelings)in regards to your therapist/therapy. Maybe this can be worked on as well.
It's always better as a general rule to stay in the grey, rather than the black and white. I guess I worry when I "hear" people speak in absolutes. & maybe this is where you need to be right now.
& hey, you do yoga, right? There are alot of really good poses I can think of that will help bring you to some kind of calm, peaceful place. It would be worth a try.
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