Posted by Tamar on December 11, 2005, at 14:49:29
In reply to Re: wow; big decision, posted by happyflower on December 11, 2005, at 13:27:08
> I have been trying to communicate with him since last Feb., I suggest couples counceling at least 4 times since then, suggest indivdial therapy for him, I wrote him letters trying to get him to open up to me. I get NOTHING in return. He just doesn't want me anymore, simple as that, I don't believe he loves me at all. I have pulled away from him, he hasn't even noticed. I have tried kicking him in the butt sort of to speak, nothing has worked. He just doesn't care.
It sounds as if you’ve given him plenty of chances.
> Yes, the relationship is over, has been for a long time now, not my choice either. I wanted it to work out. I though I married the most caring, sensistive man that I have ever met. Well people change, I never thought he could ever hurt me. Well he has very deeply, and I don't believe my heart can recover.
Gosh, that’s really tough.
> I need to prepare financially. I have been a SAHM for 10 years now, I need to get a job, save some money, get a car, etc. I don't plan on telling him until I do have my ducks in a row. I have time on my side right now. Unless he comes home and says he loves "Dinah" and he leaves me first. I am strong I can do this. I need to get myself emotionally stronger in order to help my kids get through this too.
Yes, preparing financially sounds like a good plan. And of course, talk to a lawyer.
> You know it is one thing to never have a parents love, you don't know what you are missing. But to lose love from your DH hurts really bad, becasue I know what I am missing. I just don't know if I can ever trust a "good guy" again.
(((((Happyflower))))). That’s so very sad. I’m sorry you’re hurting so much.
Tamar
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