Posted by happyflower on December 11, 2005, at 13:27:08
In reply to wow; big decision » happyflower, posted by Tamar on December 11, 2005, at 13:13:18
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> You definitely deserve to be happy. Will you give your husband an opportunity to change (by doing marriage therapy or something)?I have been trying to communicate with him since last Feb., I suggest couples counceling at least 4 times since then, suggest indivdial therapy for him, I wrote him letters trying to get him to open up to me. I get NOTHING in return. He just doesn't want me anymore, simple as that, I don't believe he loves me at all. I have pulled away from him, he hasn't even noticed. I have tried kicking him in the butt sort of to speak, nothing has worked. He just doesn't care.
Or have you decided the relationship is over?
Yes, the relationship is over, has been for a long time now, not my choice either. I wanted it to work out. I though I married the most caring, sensistive man that I have ever met. Well people change, I never thought he could ever hurt me. Well he has very deeply, and I don't believe my heart can recover.
> And what does it mean to 'get your ducks in a row'???
I need to prepare financially. I have been a SAHM for 10 years now, I need to get a job, save some money, get a car, etc. I don't plan on telling him until I do have my ducks in a row. I have time on my side right now. Unless he comes home and says he loves "Dinah" and he leaves me first. I am strong I can do this. I need to get myself emotionally stronger in order to help my kids get through this too.You know it is one thing to never have a parents love, you don't know what you are missing. But to lose love from your DH hurts really bad, becasue I know what I am missing. I just don't know if I can ever trust a "good guy" again.
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