Posted by fallsfall on December 5, 2005, at 7:44:32
In reply to This is insane!, posted by happyflower on December 4, 2005, at 19:17:11
I can see times when a wink is used instead of a wave. Just to say "Hi, I see you there". A wink is much more subtle and doesn't interrupt the flow of events the way a wave or "hello" would. Winks are considered seductive (in my opinion) because they are associated with secrecy (maybe because they can be so subtle). But in a sense your relationship with your therapist IS a secret (or is at least confidential). Your therapist has a responsibility to keep confidential the fact that you are a client. At the gym, there are people who know him and know what he does for a living. If he were to be social with you at the gym (which I understand he is sometimes), that could be considered a break in that confidentiality. In that case, I think that a wink would allow him to acknowledge you without telling the whole world "Hey, I know this person!! Wanna guess how I know her?"
I think there are a lot of possible interpretations. And I learned in therapy that it is best just to ask and find out what the person really means.
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