Posted by fallsfall on December 3, 2005, at 8:09:50
In reply to Re: Question to ponder » 10derHeart, posted by Dinah on December 3, 2005, at 2:46:59
Your mother's current behavior is a bit disfunctional, don't you think? Is is possible that a variant of that disfunction impacted you in your early years?
It is fairly well accepted that my mother has emotional deficiencies - but I didn't know anything about this until about 7 years ago. But if you looked at my childhood - we had dinner together every night and went to church on Sundays, we had enough money, my mother was the Girl Scout leader, my father had a successful job, we weren't beaten or sexually abused, the kids all got good grades and have college educations. Looks pretty good, doesn't it? But the concensus is that I was emotionally deprived (by my mother because she wasn't capable of more, and by my father because he was working all the time) - and that has had an impact on me.
Maybe it is just an excuse that my therapists have dreamed up so that I don't have to deal with feeling guilty about being depressed. If so, it does help, and I'm not about to challenge it.
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