Posted by happyflower on November 28, 2005, at 9:14:34
In reply to Re: ALL/I'm in same boat/HUGE difference in men » allisonross, posted by orchid on November 28, 2005, at 8:51:00
> Isn't it little too coincidental that every T seems to be attracted to their patient (atleast in the patient's opinion), and every patient feels that their Ts are their soul mates?
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> That is what makes it different from regular relationship.Umm. I was attracted to my DH, and he was to me. I knew he wasn't my soul mate, but I did have a guy I was dating that was, but he died when we were dating.
I think if you have never experienced a soul mate, you really don't understand it. My T doesn't believe in soul mates either. But he sure had notice the weird coinsciences though.
And as far as the power imbalences they talk about. Maybe in the beginning of therapy he had some power over me during the therapy hour. But he no longer has that power over me. Things can change in the respect. But you know most relationships are not equal anyways. In my marriage I am more dominate than my DH, and he is 20 years older than me. No man has power over me, and it won't happen. I am too strong of a person for that.
People are people and you can't help who you are attracted to and who you fall in love with, my T has said this to me.
I also know a ton about my T, just like Ally and her T, so it isn't blind transference. We actually know them. And no it isn't all positive warm fuzzy thing either. I do feel equal to my T in that regard, he knows as much about me as I know about him.As far as being attracted to me, you can easily tell when a man is attracted to you. There are a lots of physical signs. Heck, and I am not bad looking either! LOL ;)
I have had several soul mates in my life, my grandmother, a old boyfriend, and now my T. It is a feeling that is hard to discribe to someone who hasn't felt it. But if you have felt it, you know it.
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