Posted by rainbowbrite on November 26, 2005, at 16:42:09
In reply to Re: family and the holidays and therapists, posted by annierose on November 26, 2005, at 15:08:14
> I just read this tread and it's got me thinking. I do think T's forget to hear things somethings in the proper context.
Yeah, that was sorta what I was trying to say in my long winded appraoch lol>
> I always tell my daughter, when you know better you do better. I just don't think my parents knew how to parent.
>Its so true, I think we often learn a lot about what not to do from our parents so that when we have or already have kids we can do better.
> I understand what Daisy wrote when she said about disappointing our T's. My T sounded surprised when I told her my Thanksgiving plans, "but you'll have no allies there." Of course I did. I went with my husband, two children and my nieces and nephews do think I'm a cool aunt! So what if I hang out at the kid table.
>I understand that as well, I feel like I disapoint my t sometimes when I dont do things I say I will. The kid table rocks!!
> And in therapy, we tend to talk about the hard stuff. The painful experiences, the bad memories. So their frame of reference of our childhood is slanted way towards dysfunctional. Of course my T (if she were to read this) would say, "There you go dimishing your childhood experiences."
>Thats the thing I guess, are they biased?? Maybe and sometimes maybe not. Is easier if both ends have tried to make imporvements over the years. For me there has been and its possible that at the time my situation did look really unfair to my t.
> I guess, in the end, we get to make these decisions all by ourselves. My T has been on vacation all week and I got to say, I miss her. My parents live out of state 1/2 the year, and I never ever miss them. What does that say?
good question.
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